The Sound of Silence
Do you ever worry about not doing enough for your kids or worry about doing it the right way? Or, if there is any down time, feeling like you have to fill it up???
You are not alone if that’s the case! But, here's a tip that actually requires you to do LESS 🎉!
I do A LOT of talking with my kids (my patients and my own), but one of the things I tell parents and teachers often is to pause and talk less….allow the silence from time to time! (This can be soooo hard to do 😬!)
Kiddos with learning and language challenges often have a hard time keeping up with conversations that happen quickly.
The pause allows more time for processing and it allows all kids the space to express themselves without attachment or to answer a specific question.
This isn’t to say you shouldn’t respond, just hold back, and let them take the lead. See what happens when you release expectation and simply allow. You will be amazed by what you hear!
We don’t always have to fill up the space!
This goes for us, too, as parents and caregivers! When our mind is filled with the noise of business, worry, and fear, it’s tricky for us to “hear” our inner voice or notice what is happening internally. We have to turn down the volume of the world around us.
Take some time each week to listen, to allow yourself to receive information from your internal wisdom and from spirit (one in the same, right?)
I challenge you to go for a walk on your own, without listening to a podcast, or drive without music playing. Instead of picking up a book, lie on the Earth and simply listen to the wind blowing through trees and the birds chirping. What do you hear in the sound of silence? Let me know how it goes and any messages you receive!
Life is full of unknowns, but the last year has been, well, unprecedented in this regard! So, something to think about as we gear up for the upcoming school year is how to make transitions easier for our kiddos, at home and school. My son was virtual all year, so we are looking at a big change in our house and we haven't had much of a schedule 😬!!!
Not everyone likes surprises and our kids feel empowered when they have a sense of control of their environment and lives (hint: so do we 😉!).
The neurodiverse kiddos I work with particularly tend to have difficulty with transitions, or shifting from one activity to another. And truly, many kids do, but there are several strategies to help kids transition successfully and facilitate cognitive flexibility as they grow.
Here's what you can do to prepare your kids:
💬 Let them know what’s expected
⚠️ Give them multiple warnings
👀 Make it visual
😌 Keep language simple
💖 Connection first/Honoring feelings
🐢 Slow down
The more you put this into practice, the more flexible kids will become, because they will feel safer and know what is expected in their everyday routines.
I’ll be diving into some of this in greater detail in my upcoming 5 Day Challenge! Keep your eyes peeled!
With love and gratitude,
Amanda Nitschke, M.S. CCC-SLP, RYT200
CE0 & Founder of PachaYoga & Healing, Leaps with Language